I'm not submissive just because I have tits... NSFW

I am a part of the kinky community. To those that aren't completely aware of what that means, I enjoy BDSM (I'll probably go more in depth some other time. but otherwise, just watch this video for more info). I've always been open to it but I had never really leaped in to the lifestyle until about two years ago. There was and continues to be a lot of discovery in this lifestyle and I have learned a few things including:

• I am a sadist.
• I prefer being in a dominant position in the relationship or scene, depending on the situation.
• I can't stand being submissive.

Now, this last statement doesn't seem to be clear enough for some people. Due to misconceptions, wrong information, or just sexist assumptions, I am perceived as someone that just hasn't met the right man/woman/trans/[enter label here] that could dominate me into a meek shell of myself that would be happily lapping up their bullshit. Now, are there women that enjoy submitting? Of course! And such women should be celebrated! It is not wrong or less to be submissive. It is a wonderful place... for a submissive. A submissive loves to submit. I DO NOT ENJOY SUBMISSION. I enjoy dominating and being in control. I love to direct and lead the person that chooses to submit to me in the path that our relationship is going. There is a bond, a trust, between us. The usual questions I get from those who cannot seem to understand this are:

• Have you submitted before?
• Why don't you like it?
• Are you sure you were doing it right?

Yes, I have submitted before. The experience was humbling but it was not the position I wanted to be in. I didn't feel right. I wanted to be the one in that position of power. The feeling of helplessness is frightening to me and not the least bit sexy. I have tried it a few times with dom/mes in a few different styles and in a few different walks of life and the feelings were the same. I didn't like it. 

The one statement that infuriates me the most... and this comes solely from men:

• But women are supposed to be submissive.

No. No. No. No. No. NO.

NO!

I am not submissive because I happen to have breasts and a vagina! I am dominant because that is what I am. It has nothing to do with my gender. It has nothing to do with my sex. I AM DOMINANT BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I AM.

(Found online)

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